Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

Don cannot bear being alone without being drunk. Without alcohol, the emotions and longings from the past get too close to the surface.

“Don’t get too big for your britches!” “You’re no better than anyone else!” “Don’t get a swelled head!” Beginning as little children, we...

Recently I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn't feel like saying good morning. I didn't feel like working. I didn’t feel like...

We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone

"We hide by avoiding things that will change us...We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead."

All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.

The core emotion of anger is crucial for survival. Without it, we would not know when to protect and defend ourselves.

Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.

Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?

While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.

When is guilt good and when is it unhealthy?

In 2004, I learned that emotions were physical experiences. It was an “Aha!” moment for me. Of course they are!

I don't know about you, but I hate feeling feelings!

How can it be that a seemingly depressed person, one who shows clinical symptoms, doesn’t respond to antidepressants or psychotherapy?