Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.

We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.

We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.

Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...

I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!

The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.

“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.

But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.

Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I

When I was a little girl, I felt at times alone and not a priority. That feeling of aloneness and not mattering made me very sad.

We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone

"We hide by avoiding things that will change us...We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead."

All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.

Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.

Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?

While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.