#relationships

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It's Not Always Depression

Dec 17, 20184 min read

Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out

We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.

May 16, 20173 min read

Am I Normal?

I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural

Feb 13, 20175 min read

Why Are People Mean?

Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I

Jan 15, 20174 min read

Are You Really Sorry?

Apologizing is hard. If you’ve ever been on the receiving end of an insincere apology, you know how demoralizing that feels. In stark...

Nov 16, 20163 min read

Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?

Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.

Jun 15, 20164 min read

5 Minutes In A Car That Transformed My Angry Tightness & Made Me a Gentler Person

When I was a little girl, I felt at times alone and not a priority. That feeling of aloneness and not mattering made me very sad.

Feb 3, 20163 min read

Stop Blaming (yourself)

We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone