Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.

I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.

We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.

Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...

Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...

I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!

The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.

By educating himself on emotions and how the brain is affected by childhood adversity, Mike learned that everyone struggled.

I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural

But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.

For those of you who like podcasts, I'm sharing this interview I did with Laura Reagan on her show, "Therapy Chat.”

Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I

Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.

Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.

There is new evidence that hugs are good for both physical and mental health.

Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.

When I was a little girl, I felt at times alone and not a priority. That feeling of aloneness and not mattering made me very sad.

Recently I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn't feel like saying good morning. I didn't feel like working. I didn’t feel like...

We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone

Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.