Feeling Anxious? You Might Have an Internal Conflict
The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 15, 20195 min read
What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 15, 20194 min read
5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health
We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 15, 20184 min read
Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 16, 20183 min read
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 16, 20185 min read
Getting To Know Your Three Brains: Part 1
I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 15, 20183 min read
Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"
The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 13, 20175 min read
The Feeling of Not Enough
By educating himself on emotions and how the brain is affected by childhood adversity, Mike learned that everyone struggled.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
May 16, 20173 min read
Am I Normal?
I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 13, 20175 min read
What's in a Moment?
But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 15, 20171 min read
The Change Triangle: A Podcast Experience
For those of you who like podcasts, I'm sharing this interview I did with Laura Reagan on her show, "Therapy Chat.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 13, 20175 min read
Why Are People Mean?
Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 16, 20163 min read
Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?
Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 15, 20163 min read
What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves
Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 27, 20162 min read
The World's Most Under-Used Free Resource For Mental Health and Wellness?
There is new evidence that hugs are good for both physical and mental health.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 13, 20163 min read
The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)
Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jun 15, 20164 min read
5 Minutes In A Car That Transformed My Angry Tightness & Made Me a Gentler Person
When I was a little girl, I felt at times alone and not a priority. That feeling of aloneness and not mattering made me very sad.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 25, 20163 min read
My Best Self, My Worst Self, My Aware Self
Recently I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn't feel like saying good morning. I didn't feel like working. I didn’t feel like...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 3, 20163 min read
Stop Blaming (yourself)
We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 27, 20153 min read
The Unattainable Standard for Men
Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.
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