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Feeling Anxious? You Might Have an Internal Conflict

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Feb 74 min read

Feeling Anxious? You Might Have an Internal Conflict

The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.

What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Apr 15, 20195 min read

What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?

I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.

5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Mar 15, 20194 min read

5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health

We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.

Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Nov 15, 20184 min read

Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story

Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...

Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Sep 16, 20183 min read

Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health

Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...

Getting To Know Your Three Brains: Part 1

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Apr 16, 20185 min read

Getting To Know Your Three Brains: Part 1

I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!

Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Feb 15, 20183 min read

Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"

The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Jul 13, 20175 min read

The Feeling of Not Enough

By educating himself on emotions and how the brain is affected by childhood adversity, Mike learned that everyone struggled.

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

May 16, 20173 min read

Am I Normal?

I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Apr 13, 20175 min read

What's in a Moment?

But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.

The Change Triangle: A Podcast Experience

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Mar 15, 20171 min read

The Change Triangle: A Podcast Experience

For those of you who like podcasts, I'm sharing this interview I did with Laura Reagan on her show, "Therapy Chat.”

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Feb 13, 20175 min read

Why Are People Mean?

Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I

Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Nov 16, 20163 min read

Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?

Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.

What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Sep 15, 20163 min read

What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves

Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.

The World's Most Under-Used Free Resource For Mental Health and Wellness?

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Jul 27, 20162 min read

The World's Most Under-Used Free Resource For Mental Health and Wellness?

There is new evidence that hugs are good for both physical and mental health.

The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Jul 13, 20163 min read

The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)

Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.

5 Minutes In A Car That Transformed My Angry Tightness & Made Me a Gentler Person

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Jun 15, 20164 min read

5 Minutes In A Car That Transformed My Angry Tightness & Made Me a Gentler Person

When I was a little girl, I felt at times alone and not a priority. That feeling of aloneness and not mattering made me very sad.

My Best Self, My Worst Self, My Aware Self

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Feb 25, 20163 min read

My Best Self, My Worst Self, My Aware Self

Recently I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn't feel like saying good morning. I didn't feel like working. I didn’t feel like...

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Feb 3, 20163 min read

Stop Blaming (yourself)

We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Oct 27, 20153 min read

The Unattainable Standard for Men

Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.