Feeling Anxious? You Might Have an Internal Conflict
The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 15, 20195 min read
What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 15, 20194 min read
5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health
We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 17, 20184 min read
Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out
We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 15, 20184 min read
Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 16, 20183 min read
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 15, 20183 min read
Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"
The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 15, 20171 min read
The Change Triangle: A Podcast Experience
For those of you who like podcasts, I'm sharing this interview I did with Laura Reagan on her show, "Therapy Chat.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 15, 20164 min read
Start Fantasizing!
“You cannot change the past, but you can change how you feel about the past.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 15, 20163 min read
What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves
Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 13, 20163 min read
The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)
Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 25, 20163 min read
My Best Self, My Worst Self, My Aware Self
Recently I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn't feel like saying good morning. I didn't feel like working. I didn’t feel like...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 3, 20163 min read
Stop Blaming (yourself)
We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 10, 20162 min read
Why We Hide
"We hide by avoiding things that will change us...We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead."
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 16, 20153 min read
Want to Feel More Authentic? Get to Know Your Defenses!
All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 6, 20152 min read
Taking In The Love: What I Learned From Joan Armatrading
While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 28, 20152 min read
Teen Parenting Blog Repost: When Being a “Bad Guy” Leads To Good
When is guilt good and when is it unhealthy?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 26, 20152 min read
I hate feeling feelings!
I don't know about you, but I hate feeling feelings!
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