What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 15, 20194 min read
5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health
We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 17, 20184 min read
Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out
We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 15, 20184 min read
Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 16, 20183 min read
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 16, 20185 min read
Getting To Know Your Three Brains: Part 1
I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 15, 20183 min read
Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"
The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 14, 20174 min read
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
May 16, 20173 min read
Am I Normal?
I suspected Robert’s sudden question about normalcy had to do with his new relationship. Love renders us vulnerable to rejection. We natural
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 13, 20175 min read
What's in a Moment?
But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 15, 20164 min read
Start Fantasizing!
“You cannot change the past, but you can change how you feel about the past.”
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 16, 20163 min read
Why Am I Uncomfortable Getting Close To People?
Many of us as children or adolescents shared our feelings with the “wrong” person - someone whose response was to humiliate or reject us.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jul 13, 20163 min read
The Difference Between Sex and Love For Men (And Women)
Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 16, 20153 min read
Want to Feel More Authentic? Get to Know Your Defenses!
All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 27, 20153 min read
The Unattainable Standard for Men
Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.
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