What is the Difference Between Conventional Talk Psychotherapy and Experiential Psychotherapy?
I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 17, 20184 min read
Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out
We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 15, 20184 min read
Thanksgiving Groundhog Day: A Personal Story
Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 16, 20183 min read
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 15, 20183 min read
Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"
The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Nov 15, 20173 min read
Fathers, Sons, & Intimacy
How would a little boy learn that it was good to express intimacy and affection if his own father could not? Answer: A little boy would not.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 13, 20175 min read
What's in a Moment?
But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 13, 20175 min read
Why Are People Mean?
Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 15, 20163 min read
What Renee Taught Me About Why Some People Harm Themselves
Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 3, 20163 min read
Stop Blaming (yourself)
We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 16, 20153 min read
Want to Feel More Authentic? Get to Know Your Defenses!
All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 27, 20153 min read
The Unattainable Standard for Men
Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 6, 20152 min read
Taking In The Love: What I Learned From Joan Armatrading
While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.
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