Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.

We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.

Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...

Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...

The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.

How would a little boy learn that it was good to express intimacy and affection if his own father could not? Answer: A little boy would not.

But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.

Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I

Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.

We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone

All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.

Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.

While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.