Feeling Anxious? You Might Have an Internal Conflict
The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.
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Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Mar 15, 20194 min read
5 Enlightened Ways to Think About Mental Health
We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 17, 20184 min read
Handling the Holidays When Your Parents Stress You Out
We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 16, 20183 min read
Using Anxiety as a Signal to Increase Emotional Health
Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 16, 20185 min read
Getting To Know Your Three Brains: Part 1
I no longer find it helpful to think of humans as having just one brain. Instead, I like to think of us as having three brains. Here's why!
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 15, 20183 min read
Top 5 Instant Benefits of "Working the Change Triangle"
The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Sep 14, 20174 min read
The Problem With Yelling
“The problem with verbal abuse is there is no evidence,” Marta shared. She came for help with a long-standing depression.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Apr 13, 20175 min read
What's in a Moment?
But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 13, 20175 min read
Why Are People Mean?
Cecily grew up in a family with lots of shouting and sometimes some hitting. Cecily naturally thought yelling and hitting WAS anger. I
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jun 15, 20164 min read
5 Minutes In A Car That Transformed My Angry Tightness & Made Me a Gentler Person
When I was a little girl, I felt at times alone and not a priority. That feeling of aloneness and not mattering made me very sad.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Feb 3, 20163 min read
Stop Blaming (yourself)
We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Jan 10, 20162 min read
Why We Hide
"We hide by avoiding things that will change us...We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead."
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Dec 16, 20153 min read
Want to Feel More Authentic? Get to Know Your Defenses!
All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 27, 20153 min read
The Unattainable Standard for Men
Men don't typically feel free to be emotionally honest and authentically vulnerable for many good reasons.
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 10, 20152 min read
The Best Way to Discover Something New About You!
Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?
Hilary Jacobs Hendel
Oct 6, 20152 min read
Taking In The Love: What I Learned From Joan Armatrading
While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.
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