Hilary Jacobs Hendel | The Change Triangle

The next time you feel anxious, consider the idea that you might be in conflict about something.

I learned of an entirely new way of working where the focus was not only on helping a person gain insight but on fostering healing.

We need a world where no one feels embarrassed or ashamed about their suffering. We need a world where suffering evokes only kindness.

We don’t get to pick our families. And, sometimes the family we have is just not what we want.

Thanksgiving has always been my favorite holiday. I have a relatively small family and since I wasn’t raised with religion, Thanksgiving...

Recently, I was at my dentist’s office when I heard the assistant, I’ll call her Emily, talking with the office receptionist. Emily...

The Change Triangle is a map and a tool . It guides us from anxiety and depression back to our true selves.

For those of you who like podcasts, I'm sharing this interview I did with Laura Reagan on her show, "Therapy Chat.”

“You cannot change the past, but you can change how you feel about the past.”

Renee and I worked together on calming her anxiety by learning what emotions were being triggered. We accessed and processed anger.

Jonathan craves sex when he’s lonely. He believes it is weak to let someone know that he's lonely and to admit that he needs company.

Recently I woke up on the wrong side of the bed. I didn't feel like saying good morning. I didn't feel like working. I didn’t feel like...

We blame ourselves. We beat ourselves up. We call ourselves names like “loser” and “failure.” And then we wonder why we feel small, alone

"We hide by avoiding things that will change us...We hide by asking for reassurance. We hide by letting someone else speak up and lead."

All of us use defenses to avoid emotions. In fact, defenses are developed for precisely that reason—to avoid painful feelings.

While others might have judged her as boastful, I did not. Yet, she wasn't shy to show her pride and pleasure.

When is guilt good and when is it unhealthy?

I don't know about you, but I hate feeling feelings!