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3 Tips to Stay More Present in the Present

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Nov 8, 20223 min read

3 Tips to Stay More Present in the Present

Resisting the mind’s pull toward future worries or past wounds takes practice.

Healing From Trauma Means Dealing With Disgust

Hilary Jacobs Hendel and Juli Fraga, PsyD

Sep 7, 20227 min read

Healing From Trauma Means Dealing With Disgust

This article was originally published on Slate.com on 6/20/22. Irene recently came to therapy because her anxiety had been revving up,...

“He’s an Idiot!” Considering the Judgments We All Make

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

May 9, 20224 min read

“He’s an Idiot!” Considering the Judgments We All Make

"He's an idiot," my father would snap when someone didn't do something the way he wanted. It didn't bother me then. But now I realize my...

Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Feb 7, 20223 min read

Four Ways to Engage with the Change Triangle Tool for Emotional Health

Most people have never had any emotions education at all. In 2022, this is an astounding fact. As a result of the lack of education in...

22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Jan 10, 20224 min read

22 Crucial Things to Know About Emotions for Emotional Health

Our dysfunctional society fails to educate us on emotions. Here are a few basics to start you on your way to more knowledge.

5 Crucial Qualities to Seek in a Life Partner

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Oct 10, 20217 min read

5 Crucial Qualities to Seek in a Life Partner

Dating tips for finding emotional intimacy and connection

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

May 7, 20215 min read

From Confusion to Clarity

(The personal reflections on confusion quoted throughout this article were generously shared by "Michele." Thank you, Michele.) "I often...

4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Jan 8, 20215 min read

4 Ways to Increase Joy: Putting the Science of Joy into Everyday Practice

Joy is one of the seven core emotions on the Change Triangle. Joy, like all core emotions, has a particular feeling in the body, although...

4 Simple Phrases to Halt Anxious Thoughts

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Jun 11, 20204 min read

4 Simple Phrases to Halt Anxious Thoughts

Speaking supportive words to ourselves will provide relief, much like a parent reassures a distressed child. Want to experiment? Try this!

Rupture & Repair Part 1:Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Infancy

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Mar 9, 20206 min read

Rupture & Repair Part 1:Connection, Disconnection, & Emotional Communication in Infancy

Why do some children become sad, withdrawn, insecure, or angry, whereas others become happy, curious, affectionate, and self-confident?

5 Tips to Build Emotional Resilience When the Holidays Bring Distress

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Dec 6, 20194 min read

5 Tips to Build Emotional Resilience When the Holidays Bring Distress

It's not unusual for the holidays to bring up anxiety. But, a little emotion education and a few tips go a long way to getting through.

Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 5 Challenges to Becoming Aware

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Aug 14, 20183 min read

Getting to Know Your Three Brains: Part 5 Challenges to Becoming Aware

Many of us are afraid, uncomfortable, or reluctant to know our internal world. Here are some of the reasons:

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Apr 13, 20175 min read

What's in a Moment?

But we can shift our mind to be in the present moment. And when we do, we wake up a visceral part of us. I am alive. I am here.

The Best Way to Discover Something New About You!

Hilary Jacobs Hendel

Oct 10, 20152 min read

The Best Way to Discover Something New About You!

Slowing down will allow you to notice more about your emotional world. Want to experiment?